Women Dating Southern Men

Who else remembers Joaquin Phoenix as Johnny Cash , cajoling Reese Witherspoon into agreeing to marry him in front of a mass audience? Marry me. This vision was fresh on my mind when I headed down to Nashville, Tennessee over the Winter Break, joining some friends in the exploration of all things country, cowboys included. Always on the investigative prowl, I made it my mission to talk to as many lads as possible, mainly by forcing them into the popular local activity of playing pool. The other option would have been the popular local activity of singing karaoke, but I usually reserve that for enemies that I want to leave deaf. Below is my takeaway, spruced up with some notes from an anonymous southern friend! While I saw plenty a dirty-haired musician, none of them exuded the starving artist vibe of their Brooklyn counterparts, a refreshing reassurance that there is still balance on earth where men and women wear different jean sizes. According to my savvy friend, country boys fall under two categories. True to the eponymous ABC show, Nashville ladies are all about sparkles and sequins and curls and curves, the last one entailing every domain. Try pool! I dated a Southern Boy who was sweet, funny really funny , and intelligent.

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He walked me home, and he was such a gentleman. Until one day wait for it he just disappeared. I also dated a French guy who was stylish, and he was worldly and who studied Architecture. I never had that happen in my life. Also, I heard that in Texas they prefer backstabbing rather than directly talking about things but maybe those are just rumors. The difference is this. Sure he liked cat and mouse game the whole I lost my cell phone and my sim card story , but I never experienced that feeling that he betrayed something sacred, you know? Southern boys are the worst thing that ever happened to me. Moved to Texas. If I would have known then what I know now, I would never have dated one. Your email address will not be published. They look like real men.Speaking of jeans.. They have great game. Hence, be warned… They all have agendas. That said… They appreciate femininity. They are walking paradoxes. Also, I heard that in Texas they prefer backstabbing rather than directly talking about things but maybe those are just rumors The difference is this. Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Southern Man isn't a very experienced dater. He counted up the other day and realized that, up to a couple of years ago, he'd been on ten first dates in his entire life. Well, before you write Southern Man off as a complete loser, we note that eight of those led to long-term relationships. With one first date that was not followed by a second this was the girl that Southern Mother had picked out for him and Southern Man's one-and-only one-night stand. Well, we went out a few more times, but there was only one night. So Southern Man has been in relationships pretty much continually from high school until a few years ago when the most recent LTR fell apart. Or collapsed into fiery ruin. Which means that these last two years have been In that last two years Southern Man's been on about a dozen more first dates. And one second date. So, Southern Man has to learn to date again.

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But the marketplace is different. He's different. For one thing, he's not all that keen on dating anyway. But he does actually has some idea of what he wants in a relationship. To get the first date, you must be slender and attractive. Not slender? If Southern Man can haul his tired carcass to the gym three times a week, so can you. Also, see this diet post. Not attractive? There's a seventy-billion-dollar-a-year industry eager to help you out. Avail yourself of it. And if you're offended by that, too bad: girls screen and reject guys by attractiveness and physique far more vigorously than we do. You reap what you sow. To earn a second date, you must on that first date present yourself as feminine and sweet. And that right there is why Southern Man hasn't been on many second dates. The girls in his target demographic take great care and pride in assuring him how independent and self-reliant they are and that they have a house and a car and a job and don't need anything from him and that this is all about having a friend and going out and having fun.Well, at least at first. There's always that tease of "if things work out Don't need a man to take care of you? Southern Man wonders why you are on this date. Trying to show off how tough you are? Don't you realize that men seek feminine characteristics in their partners, not masculine ones? Sadly, professional divorced women that have been on their own for a while have little choice but to adopt masculine traits or perish by the wayside. It really shows, sometimes. Southern Man sees lots women presenting themselves on dates with the masculine characteristics that they themselves seek in their partner, blissfully unaware that we could hardly care less about their income or job or car or number of square feet in their rent house. And they often project their "I'm a strong 21st-century woman" vibe with sarcasm lots and lots and lots of sarcasm and snarling and sneering and outright criticism. Do they have any idea how powerfully unattractive that is? Unattractive enough that Southern Man never called for a second date, anyway. And, yes, "sweet and feminine" is more important than "slender and attractive. And if no one ever does, that's just fine; better to do without than to settle for less.

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But to be in a relationship with Southern Man with the expectation that he will one day endow thee with all his worldly goods, et cetera you must provide the two things that men seek most in their partners: emotional comfort and physical pleasure. Men need someone to lean on, a little bit, at the end of the day, and let them know that they're respected and loved and wanted and needed and didn't screw up too badly that day and here's a hot meal and a beer just for you. And physical pleasure includes sex but there's a lot more to it than that. The mother of Southern Man's children gave the best footrubs ever. Southern Man made it through many a long day at work anticipating that particular treat. What do you have to offer your hard-working boyfriend at the end of the day? And, yes, the promises of emotional comfort and physical pleasure are the most important of the six. As the song says, how can Southern Man find a woman like that? And what does he have to offer that she wants in a relationship? Only time will tell. In the meantime he will continue to diet and work out and improve his live as best he can and as an early commenter has already reminded him seek out God's will and walk on the path He lights for me and not worry too much about dating for the time being. So I take it that your ex was a skinny little thing too. A beautiful face can often hide a dark and cold heart.Been there. Done that. Totally burned by the outer shell we live in. A pure heart toward God is all that really matters now. Southern Ex was a slender 'lil thang, and the best country cook in four states, and put a hundred pounds on both of us the first year. Southern Man is still paying the price, there; he'll never see his bachelor weight again but hopes to get within fifty pounds of it one day. So do you hear their biological clocks ticking? What about yours? Are you going to have more children? This is one. I understand that males have an emotional urge to "take care of " the woman in their lives. And that's fine with me. But you seem to interpret "take care of" to mean "take care of financially. Even if she qualifies in every other way? I knew your most recent two exes, and they were both financial sponges who left you in the sad financial state you find yourself in.

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Now I know why.. If you find a third, beware. You might be sleeping in your car. GP knows more about me than I care to admit. It is certainly true that in the case of Ex 3 I was powerfully attracted by her need for someone to take care of her. I was just reading another relationship blog this morning Gateway Boyfriend and the theme of the article was that we can't control what attracts us. It may well be that I'm attracted to the "wrong" kind of girl and should be a little more open to - well, how about financially and emotional stable professionals? Perhaps that would be better. Thanks, GP! This is probably more than anyone really wants to know, but The first marriage was while I was in school and lasted only a year and a half. No kids. Haven't seen or heard from her in twenty-five years. The second marriage was to Southern Ex, the mother of the three Southern Children. Married sixteen years, divorced now for six.She's remarried, had another kid, lives about six hours away, and is now disabled brain tumor. We get along fine as long as the child support check isn't late. The third was a two-year relationship with an old friend, about half of that married and much of the "married" time, separated and in counseling. She was physically disabled due to a horrific automobile accident; I later learned that she had some serious mental problems as well. That one ended in flaming ruin. She still calls every now and then to accuse me of stalking or stealing or breaking into the house and re-arranging her kitchen. Every man should be in one LTR with a crazy woman; it provides considerable perspective. I agree with what you've written and wonder why the women that have posted are so snarky. You've got more going for you than the average guy so why not demand a physically attractive woman that is at least somewhat feminine. Problem is that I don't think that I'd trust any of them now days but that just me. Glad that you're at least willing to take the chance with them. Good luck and God bless. Sounds like a whole heap of backward bullshit to me. Your need for a woman to be financially dependant and fragile so she fluff up your weak self esteem will keep you in the circle you are in.

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You will forever attract weak women wanting to take advantage of that and drive away women with enough self respect to be that strong partner you wish to lean on. Drop the illusion man's biggest gift is his bank account and start looking to relate with people. Peace y'all. Ok I really like this guy.. He disappeared on me already for four months once. I was done with the 23 year relationship. I was ready to move on.. He then used a flash card to another driver hoping I was their instrutour and in the cab.. The driver called me asking who this guy was. He said his intention was to talk with me.. I don't understand why he didn't just call or text. We finally just started talking after i texted him asking if he was thebsign holder.He said yes. I asked why he didn't call or talk to me. He said hevsisbt want to get i. The way of my ex. Now I panic everytine he goes home to his son who is omg so cute. That he went call again. He doesn't understand how I get nervous and worried when I don't hear from him especially when he drives tired or there is bad weather. So I am afraid it pushes him away. Totally not my intent.. I am truly concerned. I don't know where he came from. I can't stop thinking of how he touched me.. I never wanted to leave work to be with someone but now I just want to go hone so I could possibly see him..

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But according to you I am messing up big time. I offered to buy him a ticket to spend time together on an upcoming trip he said no.. I just want time together alone no work no phone no cares.. I wanted to include his son too but am afraid to ask I wanted to just do it.. How do i fix all this? I don't want to run him off.. Post a Comment. Southern Man. At Wednesday, December 05, , Southern Man said At Thursday, December 06, , Anonymous said Three ex'es? Thought is was only two? Were you widowed? Never, Never, Never give up! At Thursday, December 06, , Southern Man said

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At Sunday, December 09, , Anonymous said Peace y'all At Saturday, August 27, , Unknown said At Saturday, August 27, , Unknown said I hadn't been called "Ma'am" by someone I was dating until I moved to the South. For the last three years, this California girl has been living down South and enjoying all of its southern hospitality. Other than deciding to swipe right for the guy holding a gun, the guy in his truck or tractor, and the guy with his grandma, here are a few things I learned about sex and dating in the South:. Where I'm from, people say "dude," "like," and "hella" in nearly every sentence. Now I know it's just something that's ingrained in southerners and I've grown to like it! The South is steeped in tradition. One of them being Sunday dinners and, more likely than not, church.