Dating A Guy Who Lives

By blueflames January 4, in Dating Advice. I met a guy on a dating app who lives 2 hours ish away from me. I don't even know how we ended up matching, because I'm pretty sure my location radius is set to. The thing is, is it feasible to start dating somebody if they live 2 hours away? I understand distance if the couple initially is together, and then has to be apart temporarily. But we are still in the getting to know the person stage. I mean we've only had one date. So how do you build that connection with someone when they are that far away? I know 2 hours on its face is not that far, but 1 that's without factoring in traffic and 2 it's still far enough that you can't really see each other at all on weekdays. And nothing really beats being able to cuddle with and see your SO all the time. I guess what I am asking is, do you think it's worth it to go on another date or so with this guy? I'm really only interested in dating someone if there is a potential for it to turn into something serious.

Dating Someone Who Still Lives At Home

I don't want to waste time if it's likely to fizzle out. If you're answer is no to both then I'm not sure how it can work. It will end up being a lot of frustration. We haven't really addressed that yet. I feel like it's too early to talk about moving considering we've only been on one date? He did say he's not really tied down to where he is. I do think it would make much more sense for him to move closer to me than for me to move closer to him. I live in a much bigger city than he does, with many more job opportunities. I do think a 2-hour commute is a bit tough, especially when you don't have a lot of free time during the week. It means he can't casually drop in with Chinese food or go out for a sort date on weekdays, and that your dates will be limited to Saturday afternoons, evenings and Sunday mornings.Of course, it's your decision, but I do think you're leaning to it not being worth it. I give you credit for being realistic because a lot of people write in about being in a "long-distance relationship" they've been in for years and never having met the person in the real life. It's not really a relationship. I wouldn't and my husband and I dated long distance for a few years but we'd dated in the past unless you can meet midway and it's practical to see each other at least once-twice a week. I am busy during the week and pretty independent. But even with that it does come to a head at some point for some. You do get caught up in a perpetual honeymoon state for quite some time. As nice as that is and without the benefit of day to day life, the down side is it takes longer to really get to know the other person. It's a lot of time and effort invested and with no return in the end. But you both need commit to do the hard work, because it is hard. You both need to be independent spirits because there will be many times you wish you partner was there when they couldn't be and you need to be very trusting and trustworthy. AND you both need to be willing to move.

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Doesn't mean you do, but I would have preferred it if my partner truly thought the relationship was worth it do to so as well. I might have moved both times but felt resentful when my partner s true motivation was always to stay and expect me to compromise. That would have been fair to tell me that up front and not pretend otherwise. The first relationship ended over an impasse, only for him to come back months later and agree to live in my home. We decided a trial run to start. He was there 3 days a week. Given what you've written are your priorities, and you've only had one date, you may want to consider other local options. It takes two people to be EQUALLY interested in each other otherwise one person will be doing all of the work which in my situation ended up being me who was doing all the work. I had the money and a reliable car so I offered to always come see her. She really liked me and the crazy thing is I fell in love with her because of how much I was doing for her. Because of how much I was doing for her I feel like that was why she lost interest. She slowly stopped caring to see me and we started fading apart. I feel like it was a lot harder on me because I was the one that put in most of the effort. Wasted so much time. Just seemed like a lesson in life. Relationships have to be equal so if you do decide to take the risk of dating long distance, make sure you guys are ALWAYS doing half the work.By Liz Fischer , in Dating , 14 hours ago. By Paula Thompson , in Dating , 15 hours ago. By Willard Marsh , in Dating , 16 hours ago. By Willard Marsh , in Dating , 17 hours ago. By Natalie Garcia , in Dating , 18 hours ago. By Paula Thompson , in Dating , 20 hours ago. November All Activity Home Dating someone who lives 2 hours away? Dating someone who lives 2 hours away? Recommended Posts. Posted January 4, I don't even know how we ended up matching, because I'm pretty sure my location radius is set to The thing is, is it feasible to start dating somebody if they live 2 hours away? On the other hand, I have a pretty demanding job and not much free time during the week anyway. Link to comment. SherrySher Posted January 4, Is he planning on moving to where you are? Are you planning to move where he is? DanZee Posted January 4, Batya33 Posted January 4,

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I've done it, twice. I know others that can do it, but it's pretty rare. I am a little biased. Again, I do know some success stories. Posted January 5, Wiseman2 Posted January 5, I met a guy on a dating app who lives 2 hours ish away. Rozhni Posted January 6, Posted January 6, Archived This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Go to topic listing. Unraveling Love: Navigating 5th Cousin Romance. Ignite Romance: Mastering Dating 10 Questions. Top Discussions this Week.

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Was I love bombed?? Ready to give up on finding love How long should it be until you ask a partner to go exclusive? Me 24M Taking time to gain clarity from this girl 29F after 1. Sign In Sign Up. Without doing so, he will never develop independence and responsibility, as he will always be reliant on his family, physically, mentally and emotional. Only on his own can he learn to flourish and then be capable of leading his own family as a husband and father. Independent living for men enables him to develop valuable traits such as duty, responsibility and leadership. This is why it is a BAD IDEA to date or even marry any man, like this 50 year old fella , who over the age 25 is still living with his parents or who lives so close to them that his mother or female relatives still does his laundry, makes his meals etc. A man cannot lead, protect or provide for you and your future children if he has not already learned to do so through independence and responsibility. A man learns to be a man of virtue, honour, strength, and responsibility by leaving home and working to establish himself independently from his family. A woman learns to be a godly woman of virtue by remaining in the family home until she is married. This was how it was done in the past and one of the reasons why marriages were more successful. When I met my husband, he was definitely independent and had his own place. It was not expensive or flashy. It was a rental property, but it was his. He was paying his bills regularly, taking care of his car which he used for work, dealing with repairs around the home, managing his taxes and of course, holding down a job in order to meet his living expenses. All these are essential life skills that an adult man needs before he can be considered fit for marriage and family.

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He is an opportunistic user, taking advantage of his parents he would do the same to you! What then? If I were a guy dating a woman over 28, I would only go for a woman who lives independently, but really close to her parents ie on the same street or who lives in a shared property with other women. The only exceptions to this would be widows who are more likely to live independently in their marital home following the demise of their husbands and single mothers, who for obvious reasons, need to live in their own property. To be honest, if you are a single, child-free woman over 28 years old who is unable to live with your parents or family, sharing a property with other single Catholic or Christian women will not only provide you a sisterhood, but also help you save money. You are less likely to attract predatory men or users who just want to take advantage of you. This tends to deter a lot of predatory, dishonest or disingenious men. You can even find likeminded single Christian women via local Christian groups or your parish church to house-share with. Depending on the country you are from and your income, rates may be high or low. For a Canadian living in a convent in Poland, the rates are cheap, but for a Canadian living in a convent in the eurozone, rates are high. If you an adult man calling yourself a traditional Catholic man and you STILL live with your parents or family, you should be ashamed of yourself. As parents, it is our duty to raise and prepare our children for adulthood, and ensure they are fit functional adults that we can then hand off to their spouse who will continue our lineage. Simply put, a man cannot have a wife until he has first left his father and his mother independent living and he cannot be one either with his wife unless he has first developed all skills mentioned above via independent living and responsibility. No woman wants to a spouse that she has to baby and raise because you failed in your job, so chances of your son bagging a virtuous woman will be minimal and if he does, he would eventually lose her or the relationship will be irretrievable broken. By age , your adult son should leave the family home. Sure his new living circumstances will not be as plush or comfortable as the family home, but it is now his job to learn to stand on his own feet. For your daughters, they can remain at home until age 28 — they are still expected to contribute to family chores, expenses and so on. If they remain unmarried after 28 years, kick them out — they should go find a houseshare.Allowing your adult children to remain developmentally stunted may feel good to you because you get to baby them forever, but it damages them in the longterm as you render them unmarriageable and much more likely to grow old alone and die alone. My brother is 35 and lives at home. He owns half of the home and pays for half the mortgage. My mom would not be able to afford rent or a mortgage by herself. He makes lots of money, he does it to help my mom, not the other way around. He buys all the groceries. He does his own laundry and his share of the chores. She does cook most of his meals though. I have said to both that we need to revise the current arrangement. That he needs to go his own way. Like Like.

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On the one hand, he does have his own home. On the hand, his mother lives with him. Perhaps he can find her a separate accommodation? I have begun dating a man who from to was living in a traditional religious community in Scotland to discern being a monk. He returned the U. After about 4 or 5 months of mourning the loss of that vocation, he prayerfully discerned that God was directing him towards marriage and fatherhood and began working in his previous career field construction management. He is a faithful, latin mass attending trad catholic and has in the past year helped his parents to reengage their faith in a meaningful way. Before we started to speak seriously he made it known in a effort to be honest and allow me the chance to seek someone else that his financial situation is very lacking because he had started from scratch after leaving the monastery and that this was the reason why he is staying with his parents. So that he is able to more rapidly save money with which to attract a wife and begin a family soon. Do you see this decision of his as one that should make me hesitate? Or does it seem prudent, so that he has more to offer his spouse? Thanks for your thoughts! Re your question — it is admirable that he is being so honest with you about his finances. He does need a stable job — no matter what it pays — and a way of having a roof over his head to house his proposed family.Just as he prepared himself to be a monk, he needs to prepare himself to be a husband and father. We had to make do with studio flat — a one room apartment. My husband was living independently when I met him. This man you mention can always rebuild his finances, but must start first with a stable job and his accommodation. He should NOT be living with his parents. He needs to move out, get his own place no matter how small or modest it is and then consider courting. Read my ariticle below on tips for low income men. I think you might have to factor in cultures outside of western ones. Often times they are expected to shoulder quite a bulk of the household upkeep on top of their own expenses, help their parents run businesses alongside their own jobs, maintain their own cars, etc. I think equating independence and maturity with separating yourself physically from your family may be a more western ideal, which is not necessarily shared in other parts of the world. Back in the day, families did live communally together, but dowries were also paid and men often worked in the family business, which means they were more equipped to handle the responsibilities of work, finances and so on. In addition, you keep changing your name I can see your IP, you know!! You try to use western society and cultural reasons, but we are not to live our lives by cultural standards — biblical standards only. Maybe you should try reading AGAIN my article, instead of trying to come up with transient cultural values to override timeless Scriptural truths! Here in the UK nearly half of adult children live with their parents for financial reasons i. I think that the future wife would rather that I continue with my current arrangement until Marriage, rather than forking out a fortune for a grubby little room in a shared house. I pay rent, do household chores, help at the local soup kitchen, I know Catholic women should have standards but they also need to be a little flexible when it comes to prudential matters. You are right. Women should be prudent by not choosing to date, court or even marry a guy who is clearly not ready or fit for such an important vocation. The guy needs to go sort himself out first!!