In other places in the world, the word coloured when used to describe race is considered disparaging but in South Africa, it is used to describe an important segment of the population. By the way, coloured people in South Africa can be light skinned, dark skinned, speak English , speak Afrikaans and well…there is no homogeneity to our race or culture. My family photo normally has people confused as to who is adopted just based on how we look. When I started dating Panda, we both lived in the United Arab Emirates and still do having made the move from our hometown of Durban, South Africa years before. I figured this was not going to be such a challenging relationship unlike ones I have had in the past because we are from the same country, same province, same city and speak the same mother tongue of English. I base this statement on dozens of good-natured corrections from Panda. When I first started dating Panda, she did warn me that dating her meant that essentially, I would also be involved with her family and friends. She asked me if I was prepared for this and I confidently said yes I was not. Now I look back and realize how true that statement was over the last year. I literally did know any of these people before Panda and I started dating:. In the desi culture family plays a huge and integral role, and I will say that I love it. Some would see this as overwhelming, tedious and requiring so much effort however there are so many benefits to this. As independent as Panda is and boy is she independent , family is actually the foundation of our relationship and if a week goes by without me hearing from Pug or getting a voice note from Penguin then I start asking questions about if they are ok or what has happened. Its admirable. While I am not saying that I am not close to my family I am , its not normal for me to ask my parents for their help and input whereas Panda considers it a norm to ask her parents for advice on her baking, car and medical ailments. Not sure how it works in other families but having the constant update on what is happening in her family- who said what, how and why- has become an enjoyable daily routine and adds so much to our nightly chats. Through the introduction to this culture I have come to realize that family is everything. While looking back over the past year there is so much that I have learnt and value more by having to share my relationship with many more people. Why, you make ask? This is in stark contrast to my culture where we are such a diverse group even within our race, that families are usually extremely accepting of anyone who comes home.
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Feeling confused? Panda had made it very clear to me that her parents are conservative, and that our relationship might not be accepted in their eyes. So as a non-desi guy who was raised Christian, I knew that the cards were slightly stacked against me. I personally think that sharing this with your partner is so important early on in the relationship because I could make my decision about whether I would be able to handle all of this uncertainty and possible family drama plus I had time to prepare for any outcome. As a general understanding, I knew that most brown parents are conservative, not in the way of right wing political views but in protecting the values and family name as their reputation is very important in their culture. Meeting siblings gives perspective into the dynamics of the family and I was greeted with teasing and playful banter about my white skin to my age. Her parents could potentially never speak to her again. This gave me a clearer understanding and motivated me to prove that no matter what, Panda and I were going to make it through any and all challenges that would be thrown at us. These will lead to not only being able to combat future challenges but will also form the building blocks for how we raise our own kids. You see, as a couple, these are foundations that will allow you to conquer future challenges and allow you both to grow stronger as a unified team despite your differences. We enjoyed a curry once a week with the odd Biryani for Sunday lunch. Now, I do need to point out that even as a qualified chef, my old definition of curry is any gravy based dish that had spices in… oh yes. Through my relationship with my desi panda my taste buds have been blessed with experiencing and exploring deeper into the world of Indian cuisine which extends way beyond just curry. I have since learned about chana masala, pani puri, masala dosa, jalebi, dhall, tandoori chicken, rangeen pilau and so much more. I also learnt that where you come from in India determines what you eat and that different sects of people have a different way of cooking the same dishes.
I am learning about Punjabi samosas, Goan prawns and Gujarati Biryani. Its all been eye-opening and delectable for me. I will proudly say that I am slightly addicted to paratha plain not flaky please and have somewhat mastered the art of eating bread dishes with my hands… yet I am still working on eating rice with my hands however it is slightly more complicated than bread- there is an art and technique involved. I used to watch Panda and Pug eating a dish with their hands and be in awe of how it was achieved; combining the gravy, rice and vegetables together, forming lumps and artfully placing it in their mouths. Hopefully one day I too will attain this level of skill with rice. Do not be easily offended and allow for teasing and mistakes to be made, I for one have made many along the way and will probably continue to make new ones I recently learnt that if you are eating with your hands do not eat with your left hand as it is disrespectful. Be aware that you probably know nothing of her cuisine and be ready to eat a ton! Cooking together is actually now our favourite pastime. How did you manage to go on a first date?? Even though Panda is not traditional in any sense and I actually never saw her watching a Bollywood movie, she could easily offer an opinion on the plots, actors and general discussion on Bollywood movies when others were discussing the topic. This amazed me. Was she watching these movies in secret? But I soon realized that Bollywood was as crucial to desi upbringings as the cuisine was. It was in her DNA somehow. So I realized that I needed to get involved and be able to offer some opinions on this topic as well. Note: If you are dating a desi woman you may want to follow suit for extra brownie points. I recently watched my first Bollywood movie… Kal Ho Naa Ho Tomorrow may never come which is an interesting romantic drama, covering issues like religious tolerance to family tribulations to dealing with death. This was a serious movie with a captivating plot and some vital life lessons.
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Reflecting back on a film like Kal Ho Naa Ho or even Bollywood as a whole- I like that it tries to bring the Indian community together whether you are Sikh, Muslim or Christian and wherever you are in the world… the songs, the dances, the incorporation of specific cultural references in dances or as jokes allow for the inclusion across different parts of the Indian community. Obviously, I do not have a lot of knowledge of Bollywood movies however I have fallen in love with the musical aspect of Bollywood and as outlandish as it may be, I love it. As a modern, independent Panda, I can understand now how important it is for her to watch these films as there are traditional values rooted in these movies and a pride of the desi art. I also have been interested to find out that there are different industries too like Pollywood which focuses on Punjabi films, Lollywood focusing on Urdu films, Tollywood focusing on Telegu films and many more representing the diversity of languages within the desi community. It has been over a year that Panda and I have been dating and these are a few of the important ways my knowledge has been expanded through the influence of her culture. I would like to share with you a few tips that have helped us navigate our relationship successfully; hopefully it will help you too:. Constant evaluation is another key element in our relationship. Every 6 months we have a scheduled date where we discuss positives and areas for development in our relationship. We use this time to also discuss the challenges we may face as individuals and its important to recognize when you are of different races and cultures, you will not always be able to understand or relate to every challenge the other person is experiencing. As a light skinned fair male, its sometimes difficult for me to comprehend the struggles that my brown, female Panda may have. But what is possible is for me to listen, learn, empathize and be supportive. Be extremely flexible and open minded — any relationship that crosses cultural and racial barriers is a continuous journey of learning and respect for the other person. Despite the stares from people and the differences in our perspectives, I constantly find myself staring across the dinner table and thanking my lucky stars that I am loved back by an intelligent, cultured and passionate panda. This kind of deep, strong love is not for everyone and only those are truly blessed will experience it.Some people may judge you, be critical or even outright rude. I hope our experiences and challenges help you with your dating journey. Feel free to share your experiences of dating across racial and cultural lines with us in the comments below. Awww, you sound like the most sensitive caring man! I learned it the hard way, I must say, still learning…Your post was confessional and informal. Thank you so much for your meaningful and heartfelt comment. Relationships are a learning process and being in a cross cultural one as made me aware and more empathetic. Hope the post gave you a few laughs…. This article was incredible!! Thank you so much for sharing. This covered so many improtant topics and with so much honesty and openness- it was simply beautiful and thought provoking. You two are such a wonderful match. Best wishes!!! Hi Stephanie… Thank you for sharing your happiness.. I hope the blog helps others in their journey and gave a bit on insight into ours. Thank you for your genuine love and understanding to a friend of mine that I have seen shine with you. If anyone pushes you to reach for greatness — its Panda. I loved reading all of this and cannot wait to meet you!
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Panda and Polar — you deserve it all! Love love love. Hi Shardale, great to finally e-meet you! I completely agree with you, I couldnt ask for anything more in a partner and best friend. We have contributed to each others happiness and growth in our relationship. I am so glad you two have found each other and your open confession of all of that and getting to know Panda and family is another super plus in your favor. You are so very open, and am proud to make your acquaintance. She deserves a lot of the good values you seem to have and while I may seem like such a mom I am , I really like happy stories. Looking forward to more of your adventures. Cheers to the both of you! Filled with scammers. But all thanks to admin alertrecoveryonline. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Skip to content.
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I literally did know any of these people before Panda and I started dating: In the desi culture family plays a huge and integral role, and I will say that I love it. What a cuisine! Bollywood — its bigger than you think! Like this: Like Loading Related posts. Previous Article Tunisia: A country of unbelievable contrasts. Lani January 28, at pm. Hope the post gave you a few laughs… Loading Lani January 29, at am. I love the Bears — Ice Bear is my favorite and the gifs were perrrfect. Molly January 28, at pm. Stephanie Beth Currier January 29, at am. Delightful read! Wish you both much happiness! Let's converse with a comment! Cancel reply.
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