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Jana Hocking was furious when a male friend rejected a woman who was younger than him based on her age. I remember exactly where I was when I had my first, "Oh, that's what they mean when they say you're 'over the hill' moment. A male friend of mine had spotted one of my friends in an Instagram story and asked me to set him up with her. I checked if she was interested and sadly for this cupid, it was a no. I tried to soften the blow and said what all good cupids in a crisis say: "Sorry she's just started seeing someone. When I responded with an, "Umm … excuse me … what?! I want kids one day. Now imagine one of those cartoon characters that's so furious that smoke literally comes out of their ears. Yeah, well, it's safe to say that was me. I text back furiously that 1. She had her eggs frozen years ago, so joke's on him. And 2. She's NOT actually seeing someone else, she just thinks you're a flog. I had another experience recently when some bloke in the US came across one of my articles and shared it on his YouTube channel with his thousands of followers under the title 'Jana Hocking shows why women are shocked when they hit the wall'. For 27 minutes he discussed at length why someone my age has left it too late to find someone special and should basically settle for whatever I can get. I was then inundated by his followers on my Instagram account, with messages telling me I'm washed up, too old, a waste of space, I'll be single forever and worse. Much worse. Now bless their cotton socks, they really helped with my page engagement for the week, but, of course, not one of them used their real name or had their real picture on their profiles. For blokes with such strong opinions, they sure like to hide behind fake Insta accounts.

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Anyway, I'd like to say I had a little lol and moved on, but upon reflection I think I may have taken some of it to heart. Over the next month I lost interest in the dating apps, couldn't really muster up the courage to go on a date and, in a rather dark moment, scheduled in an extra dose of Botox. I had this awful realisation that many men have a cut-off age of 35 years old on the dating apps — despite their own age being significantly older. Yep, she really fired up and snapped me out of my pity-party-for-one. There is no room in our lives for those outdated attitudes. They are so irrelevant to our lives. Yep, she really went off, and it was glorious! It was like a cold splash of water in the face that I needed. And it turns out I'm not the only one having these feelings. New research commissioned by eHarmony found that singles over 35 are holding back more than Gen Z, with 69 per cent mistakenly believing they're "too old" for love. So what was her advice? If you are in a space where you are saying to yourself: "I'm actually ready for something serious and I'm looking for someone at the same point", the first thing to do is to block and delete anyone whose values don't align with yours. Let the blokes have their midlife crises, with their terrible new haircuts, tragic sports cars, ogling at young women, and let's find ourselves someone a little more mature. With a personality that matches ours and core values that run deeper than appearance.

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Now wouldn't that be a lovely relationship to find yourself in? Let's aim higher ladies, and don't let a few duds get you down note to self. A model has urged others to get checked after her shock skin cancer diagnosis. Search New Zealand Herald. View this post on Instagram. Save share Share this article facebook copy link twitter linkedin reddit email. Latest from Lifestyle. TRYathlon start of a lifetime. Forget 'everything showers', 'nothing showers' are in. Only the best for Christmas. By Sara Davidson. Whether you're 35 or 75, it's never too late to fall madly or gently and even sacredly in love. Just ask actress Ellen Burstyn and a host of other women who found themselves in the heat of romance when they least expected it. For 25 years, Ellen Burstyn did not go out on a date. Why not? I find that hard to believe, I say. She enjoyed being with her son, Jefferson, her friends, and her animals.

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Every so often, she would look around and think, "Where are all the men? But this ease took her decades to attain. I think I built an invisible shield that no one could penetrate. On a whim, she asked a woman friend if she knew a man who might be suitable. Shortly afterward, this same woman was approached by a Greek actor who had auditioned for Ellen at the Actors Studio when he was 25 and she was The Greek kid? But he was 48 now, attractive and a successful acting teacher. He sent her an e-mail, which she answered, guardedly. You do that differently than I do. It allows for a stress-free relationship. Somebody else will grab him!

As I get older, I hear more frequently about people who fall in love again with boyfriends from the past. She and Stephen were a couple for three years, parting when she was 17 and he was Forty-six years later, Stephen wrote to Marta saying that his wife of 43 years had died of cancer, he was coming to Los Angeles to rehearse with his chamber music trio, and could he take her out to lunch? Her piano is in her bedroom, so after lunch, Stephen played a Beethoven sonata while she sat on the bed. In some ways it felt as if no time had passed, and in some ways I was with a stranger. Marta had left music, earned a PhD in psychology, and lived with different men, sometimes marrying them and sometimes not. Five months after their reunion, she and Stephen were engaged. Sally had run with the most popular girls and football players at University High in Los Angeles. He was a surfer, and also a banker, who had flown in from Hawaii. In January of this year, Sally closed up her home in Palm Desert, California, and flew to Honolulu, carrying two suitcases. Gene was barefoot when he picked her up at the airport and placed a lei around her neck. Gene and his son Daniel surf foot waves and do long-distance swims between the islands. They had surfboards on the walls, and a boat in the garage, along with mountains of boxes filled with junk, Sally says. The paint was peeling, the bathrooms were moldy, and cockroaches were on parade. A dead gecko in the closet? I feel such a bond because we went to school together, and we can really communicate. You know how very few men can communicate? This one tells you everything.

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They pray together daily and attend church meetings. Well, what is a soul mate? Please send me someone who will love me just for me, and I will love him for himself. Verlean had been alone for 13 years, but she was always busy with her work for the board of education, her church, and her grandchildren. But in , because of budget cuts, she lost her job testing vision and hearing in special ed children. Then he started calling and taking her to the movies. I want a wife, not a girlfriend. I ask. The man knew me, and I knew who he was. I liked his gentleness, and he treated me with high respect. Stop screaming about little things and just adapt. I escort him to the doctor and he escorts me. And we go to church together. I like to dress up, but at first he was casual. She had dated men but never felt she could be all she was or give herself completely to the relationship. Not long after drawing up the list, Donna went to a multifaith conference. They seemed a perfect match: They made each other laugh, they liked the same books and films, they both craved solitude, neither drank alcohol, and both are gluten intolerant. It was perfect, except It was his intense spiritual devotion that made their union possible. She brought him to Jewish Renewal services, which he loved.For both of us, religion is a path to God, and our commitment to God goes beyond any organized structure. That defies credulity, for me. Neither had been married or had children. What are the odds they could connect in their 40s and not have a single argument? Do they see this as failure and throw in the towel? I explored this and other questions about love after 50 in my book Leap! Joan and Gordon, who were 57 and 59 respectively, had to ask the question themselves: Why is this wedding different from all our other weddings? They seemed well matched. They decided that what would be different about a fourth wedding was them. This time I will vow with my whole heart: 'I will walk the rest of the way with you. I will walk into the mystery with you.

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I know there will be difficult times, and I vow to see them as grist for the mill. They readied me for this. Marry, or not. Live together, or not. Have sex a lot or a little. Peggy Hilliard, 80, met John Morse, 84, through an Internet dating service in They lived in different cities, and after a year, Peggy left her house in Oregon and moved in with John at a retirement village in Washington State. At 80 you have more freedom. You just have to relax and be creative. I take heart from these stories, even if some seem a bit mushy. They offer evidence that love can come to people at all ages and stations. They inspire me to let go of my tendency to be pessimistic and think, "They're writing songs of love, but not for me. Donna Zerner had never been in love before, and the joy and sacredness at her commitzvah ceremony with David were so palpable, people couldn't stop smiling. Those who were single felt there was still a chance for them, and those who had a partner were inspired to strengthen their bond. Donna and David set the bar high, vowing they would always see challenges between them as an opportunity to deepen their love and their relationship to God. When I heard them voice this, I thought, "That's the reason I want to be in a relationship again. Not for sex alone or even companionship, but for the opportunity to go deeper with another and draw closer to the light—especially at this age, when time seems to be speeding up. Not like 'Oh yeah, I'm gonna die,' but it's a possibility that's there all the time. And once that happens, everything becomes more precious. When you're in love you feel so young, and at the same time, you're summing life up.

So it's beautiful and rich, and you have to be aware that it's impermanent. He told her recently that he was driving home and a song on the radio threw him into a terrible dark place We know that life is short. Death is certain. And love is real. We're going to enjoy every moment of it. By furiouspsych September 4, in Dating Advice. That's the text I finally got. I'm 32, she's Y this wasn't an issue before the date, idk I put this in my other post I see a lot of posts on this forum where people defend age gap relationships and have a hard time believing that an age gap is a legitimate reason for not wanting a relationship with someone. No, age is not just a number, it is about life experience and stage of life. There are indeed people It is bordering on a different generation. When you were heading to college she was probably still playing with dolls.

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There is a big difference between someone who is not even 25 and someone who is into their 30's. Sure, it may have been just an excuse That's a questionable age gap to where it could possibly work between two people, but may not for two other people. If she went on a date with you knowing your age, and she got to know you a little bit since then, she may have realized that you are in a different place than she is. Sometimes you have to spend time with someone to see whether or not they are on your level. Well we'd already met well before the date So she'd seen me, met me, talked to me, pursued me, had a date that went awesome, texted me afterward with the same flirtiness Then I get that text My friends want me to reply with a zinger, something like "It's cool you're not ready for men, enjoy the boys while you can. Dude don't take your friends advice. If you text that it will make you look like if you are "offended" also it will make her feel even more justified for not wanting to see you anymore. If I were you I would use reverse psychology and would text her "You know I was thinking the same exact thing, I'm glad you bring it up, you are right I think is better if we remain as friends". Whenever I see age described as just a number I think it's from a naive young person or an older person in denial of their own maturity. But as the girl in question has learned, initial attraction doesn't ensure that we can actually connect with someone. That's not an insult, it's just true--and regardless of age. An age gap just lends one more layer to the disconnect, and it reminds me that while I may be able to plug into my own 25 year old Self, that doesn't mean I can do the same with any given 25 year old today. OP, she's just telling you that she's not done playing in her own sandbox yet. You're response of 'ok' is perfectly okay.

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There's nothing to be gained by any comment, and if you don't wish to respond at all, that's okay. Awesome advice guys. I just sent the "lol ok. But it's nc from here on out. This is really no different from any other dating scenario you see on here where two people have met, one does the pursuing, the date goes well with a big makeout session Sometimes people have had a chance to do some thinking and they realize that it just isn't right for them. Be honest Can you honestly say that you never broke some hearts out there by pursuing hard, showing lots of interest and then bailing? Younger folks like the chase, but you lose a lot of control when you let that happen. I personally don't enjoy that feeling, and so I make a point of chasing back and seeing what comes up.